Relationship-Based Link Building: How to Earn Trust & High-Quality Links

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Have you ever received an email like this from a stranger?

Hey {First Name},

Just came across your post about {x}.

Great stuff!

I just published a resource that will provide a ton of value to your readers.

{Some Random URL}

Might be a good fit for your post? 🙂

Best regards,
Spammy McSpammerson, Founder of SpamCo

These “classic” outreach emails might have worked 10 years ago, but your chances of getting a link with them now are practically zero. 

The rules of the game have changed. If you want to build high-quality links in 2023, you need to build relationships.

How to build relationships before sending a cold email

These three tips will help you to build relationships (and high-quality backlinks):

  1. Find people to build relationships with
  2. Get on their radar
  3. Pay it forward 

1. Find people to build relationships with

One of the quickest and most effective ways to find targets for link building/relationship-building is to reverse engineer your competitors with Ahrefs’ Site Explorer.

Here’s how:

  1. Enter your domain
  2. Go to the Link Intersect report
  3. Enter a competitor’s domain
  4. Click “Show link opportunities”
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This will show you the websites that link to your competitor, but not you. 

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From here, manually review the list for the best, most relevant domains. 

For example, if you represent a martech SaaS, you can aim to target only DR 50–90 domains that are operating in a marketing niche.

Once you’ve got a shortlist of relevant domains, you can plug them into Ahrefs’ Batch Analysis tool to bulk-check their traffic.

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If they don’t have much, I’d generally recommend ruling them out.

After this, you just need to identify decision-makers in these companies. Depending on the size of the company, different people can be in charge of link building:

  • Small companies CEO, CMO, any marketing or content-related position.
  • Mid-size companies – People who take on marketing-related positions, with a focus on SEO and organic growth (e.g., Growth Marketing Manager, SEO Manager, Editor, etc.).
  • Big companies and enterprises – Focus on SEO-related positions (e.g., Head of SEO, SEO Manager, Link Builder, Outreach Specialist, etc.).

Your best bet is to build relationships with people who are directly involved in SEO on a day-to-day basis.

2. Get on their radar

The outreach process requires a certain level of creativity, not to mention patience. I recommend you start building connections with editors on LinkedIn or Twitter instead of bombarding them with outreach emails immediately. 

Learn more about their interests, what kind of content they publish, and their experience. After this research, you can engage with their content regularly to get on their radar.

The comments you leave must be meaningful and genuine, i.e., not just a “Great post!” comment but something that brings value to the discussion. Make an effort and try to forget about your ulterior motive of links.

For example, by leaving these meaningful comments, Alexandra Tachalova was invited to Aaron Anderson’s podcast as a guest speaker (and got a link and a few nice mentions as a bonus!):

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3. Pay it forward

One of the easiest ways to connect with someone and start building relationships is to do something for them without expecting anything in return.

For example, you can:

  • Include their business in your roundup article.
  • Mention their case study in your upcoming guest post.
  • Interview their founder for your blog.
  • Share their social media posts with your audience.
  • Help them with a comment and upvote on ProductHunt, etc.

Steven Macdonald recently shared a fantastic tactic on how he builds links by giving first. And by giving, he means giving a backlink—for free.

He uses Ahrefs to find the best opportunities for this. Here’s how:

  1. Go to Site Explorer
  2. Enter the site you want a link from
  3. Go to the Organic keywords report
  4. Filter for keywords in positions #4–10
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What you’re seeing here are keywords that your link prospect ranks for on the first page of Google, but not in the top three. While not all of these will be keywords they’re actively trying to rank for, you can usually find ones they are targeting by eyeballing the list.

For example, HubSpot clearly wants to rank for “instagram stories,” as it used this keyword as its post’s URL slug: 

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But as it only ranks in position #5, a relevant backlink to this page is probably something it’d be super grateful for. 

Here’s how to find a relevant place to add the link on your website:

  1. Go to Ahrefs’ Site Audit
  2. Select your website’s project
  3. Go to the Page Explorer tool
  4. Filter for pages with the target keyword in the page text
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You can then send just a quick email saying something like:

Hey {Name},

{Your Name} from {Company} here.

I really liked your recent article {Topic/URL}, so I decided to link to it from my blog.

Just wanted to let you know and, also, to keep up the great job! 🙂

That’s it! You don’t have to ask for anything in return in your first email. Just be kind and do something for them. It’s a great way to initiate the conversation and potentially build many powerful links together in the future.

How to ask for a link

Relationships take time to develop. It’s an investment. When you feel you have a strong enough connection with your prospect, it’s time to send an email.

1. Do your research beforehand

You probably already know some info about your prospects after engaging with them. Still, it won’t hurt to check their social media and blog once again. And if you find anything valuable, mention it in your cold email.

For example, you can congratulate them on a new project they launched, mention a result their company recently achieved, share your opinion on one of the topics they recently covered in a post on social media, etc.

No need to get too personal. You’ll just sound creepy. Instead, write a quick icebreaker to show you did your homework.

2. Remind how you were connected

Make your cold email warm by mentioning how you were connected with the prospect. If you did something for them before, remind them about that in your email.

For example:

  • If you previously chatted with your prospect on LinkedIn, start your email with something like, “Hey, Irina from LinkedIn here!”
  • If you had a conversation in blog comments, mention that in your email.
  • If someone previously introduced you to your prospect, mention your common connection.

3. Don’t ask for too much with your first email

Make your first email short and easy. Don’t ask for a backlink right away, or to “jump on a quick call,” or more than 10 minutes of their time.

Instead, start with a small ask or offer a win-win partnership.

4. Stay human and avoid automation

The worst way to start building relationships is to automate the whole outreach process.

The key priority is to stay human. Robots are so easy to detect these days.

Even when it comes to follow-ups, do your job and send a friendly reminder instead of making your potential partners a part of the cold outreach sequence.

It doesn’t matter what channel of communication you decide to choose. What matters is to be relevant, personal, and human with your pitches.

As Gaetano DiNardi mentioned:

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Final thoughts

Relationships are the key to building high-quality links in 2023. I truly believe that the days of automated mass outreach are over. 

Got questions or comments? Ping me on LinkedIn or Twitter.


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